Recently, I listened to a person talk about why gay people should not be able to get “married”. (Enter civil unions is more precisely what it is we do, but I’ve learned not to try to clarify a bigot’s vocabulary)
As is my habit when confronted with opinions that differ from mine, I sincerely and politely asked this person’s reasoning behind the opinion. (Really, sometimes you learn something and sometimes you teach something by being interested in the how and why people come to their opinions.)
Someday, I hope to ask this question and hear something interesting. But not this time, I got the same old, “It’s bad for families.”
How, specifically, is it bad for families?
This is what I was told: “I believe homosexuality is a sin and I’ve taught my children that also. If the state allows homosexuals to marry, then it is undermining what I am trying to teach my children.”
Wait. I’m still biting my tongue bloody over it.
Okay. My brain isn’t about to explode anymore.
See, when I was raising my child, I never felt that the state had to back up my moral teachings in order for them to be valid. In fact, there are several laws that I believe are immoral and yet you didn’t find me at the statehouse door, demanding that they be changed in order to back up my parental authority.
When I taught my son what “I” believed on a particular subject and why, I also told him what they believed and why, and what those people believed and why. I told him what I knew of the history of an issue.
Why? Because I wanted him to think for himself, to look at every side of any issue and compare it to his internal moral compass and then come to his own decision to what his beliefs on the issue might be.
Because I am not afraid. I’m not afraid that my child might think or believe differently than me. I’m not afraid that he will choose his own religious following, or choose no religious following. I’m not afraid of him being different from me.
I would be very afraid, however, if he justified hatred in a religion's name.
Thor sez: Love your neighbor means everyone, not just the people like you.